The Independent Butterfly

I’m sure we’ve all had those moments where we’re just left to think – why doesn’t anyone think I can do this or that myself? Or maybe about the question of where to go for help with something when it’s needed? Both of those scenarios can be quite scary for us TS girls to think about.

I find that a lot of girls and women with TS have trouble figuring out how to be a little more independent. I’m saying this now because I now know how important of an issue this can become as we get older.

It’s important to learn, and take everything day by day. Just because you don’t see or understand something the first time doesn’t mean you won’t get it later.

For example, I work very hard every day to work on finding things I know I will enjoy doing. These are things I won’t necessarily need a lot of help with, like reading or writing. I like to try and keep as busy as possible to help me stay on track, too, and focused. This means I’ll go and plan out days and weeks ahead with whatever seems interesting or worthwhile to me. My resident assistant job really helped with that!

I also work to try things that I know might be a little difficult for me at first. An example here would be different kinds of arts and crafts-type things. Never in my life did I think I would be able to create four different bulletin boards over a semester, and then do it all over again the next! It took a lot of planning and tapping into my creative side I had no idea existed. 😝😂

I’ll never forget my mother’s piece of advice. This might come off a little strong, but she’s always told me to stop and think a second. No matter what happens, I have the ability to figure these things out all through life. I’m not as incapable as I think I am at times. So, that’s the advice I’ll pass along to you. Whether it has to do with work or school, you can and will find your way. If someone says or shows that they don’t believe in you, don’t be afraid to show them how wrong they are. If you’re scared of asking for help, don’t be. It’s ok, and will help you learn and become stronger than you already are. ❤