Alright, so this is a topic I’ve only just begun to explore a bit more now that I’m older, and I figured I’d give you some more of my thoughts on it.
Yes, at times I do get pretty depressed over the thought
that I’ll never have my own biological child, but there’s a lot I’ve had to learn.
I think a lot of TS women who are also infertile seem to think that because of this, they’ll never have a chance at all to be a mother. This really upsets me in that these girls should not be made to think like that!
As I always say, girls with TS are not, and should not be considered any different than others around them, and this includes the want to become a mother.
There are many options available, including IVF, adoption, and even foster care. We can work to figure out which option is best for us when the time is right.
Another little bit from my childhood that my mother loves to retell is me talking about how exactly I’d start my family. I used to say how it didn’t matter to me how I would, but that I actually would is what mattered. ❤
Not flesh of my flesh
Nor bone of my bone,
But still miraculously my own.
Never forget for a single minute,
You didn’t grow under my heart
But in it.
– Fleur Conkling Heyliger